A slave is a truly enraptured and enrapturing creature, capable of the greatest pain and the deepest passion. She is a temperamental creature, simultaneously fickle in her emotions, and fiercely, ferociously devoted in her affections. She is tumultuous and tempestuous, a mercurial maelstrom, and she knows no other way to be. If she could, she […]

A brief history lesson with mild literary criticism.
A few months ago, Freddy and Eddy contacted us to see if we were interested in posting some of our educational writings on the subject of BDSM on their site. Their experience of BDSM was quite limited, and the associations they had with it were not very warm […]

I recently received an inquiry on the definition of Power Exchange.
Before we visit Merriam Webster and Friends for some etymology, history, and a side-order of semantics, I’d like to revisit a philosophical ramble I had not too long ago:
Life is Submission. We submit to the elements, to the weather, to the day and the night, […]

Dear Dovey,
I entered a relationship with my Master knowing it would be temporary. Therefore I made a promise to myself that I would not become deeply and emotionally involved with him. Only to find out now, when it’s time for me to leave, I realize I’ve lost my heart to him. Tell me I’m not […]

This concept has sort of crawled under my skin in a few discussions I have had lately so I’m going to jump into the devil’s advocate role here.
Are submissives really selfless? I say no we are not. The Merriam Webster Dictionary defines selfless as: Having no concerns for ones self.
From all the discussions and reading […]

The brain is seldom very effective at examining itself, and it is excruciatingly difficult to know whether you are being honest and realistic with yourself or just need to believe that you are. The only help I can offer here is something that, like the decisions themselves, is easier said than done. You must find someone whom you trust explicitly, whose judgement and emotional stability are clear and usually on target, and who understands the intensity of your needs and the difficulty of your quandary.

It was the worst BDSM nightmare. I was screaming for an ambulance. The cop’s wife was trying to calm me down and revive him at the same time. I was 19 years old, sexually inexperienced, only six months into the life-style, and very naive. And I was sure I had just killed the cop who was my first BDSM trainer.

One has to be willing to give total obedience to their Guide or Master. Anything less leads to continuation of life as it has been, full of anxieties, stresses and failures. Accepting the Guide as the leader that has always been sought and needed, relieves those stresses. Knowing that there is another willing to make those decisions, immediately frees the soul.

by Mistress Suzanne (SxySadist)
Play piercing is an S/m technique that involves consensually inserting needles underneath the skin of another person for mutual erotic pleasure. It is one of those activities that either fascinates, appalls or frightens most scene players. Due to its invasive nature and the risk of exposure to blood borne pathogens it is […]

For some reason, I have never been able to resonate with the word slave. It seemed that the more I understood my calling, came to accept it, that the less likelihood that it was slavery. I didn’t feel forced to be here, didn’t feel devalued, didn’t feel oppressed. I called it slavery for lack of a better term.

There are two kinds of strengths: the strength to lead, and the strength to follow; the strength to control, and the strength to yield. There are two kinds of power: the power to strip another’s soul bare, and the power to stand naked.

When a troubled submissive woman reports to her therapists the nature of her submissiveness, she is likely to encounter an uninformed therapeutic stance: that her submissiveness is just another manifestation of pathology: of disturbed interpersonal relations. The therapist does not know how to use the woman’s submissiveness in a therapeutic way, because s/he doesn’t understand what an ally in the healing process the submissive response is.