GENERAL:

1). Do I have to register to use the site? Registration is only necessary for the personals area. The galleries, columns, etc. are all open to anyone over the age of 18.

PERSONALS:

1). Is membership free? Yes.

2). Can I post pictures of my genitalia or other similarly seductive material? No. Laws of the land being what they are, we open ourselves up to all sorts of nightmarish scenarios if you do that. SandM.com personals area will never resemble a mushroom forest. Plus, dude: nobody really wants to see that stuff. Moderators will not approve explicit photos.

3). How long do I have to wait for my photo to be approved? SandM.com is a free service for the members of the kink community run by a few members of the kink community. Just like you, sometimes we need to get out and play. Consequently, you might experience a wait of several hours during evenings and weekends. Please be patient.

4). I'm not very tech savvy. This site confuses me. Send us an email explaining how and or where you got lost. Your feedback will help us improve the site.

5). What happens if I violate the Terms of Service? We take the TOS seriously. It's not there just for legal reasons but also for ethical ones; things like theft of intellectual property, cyber stalking & harassment are only some of the things we cannot condone. We really will delete your account for that kind of stuff.

6). What are the Terms of Service? Click here.

*** NOTE: It's been suggested that the "I am looking for" choices are a bit too specific. Currently you can define who you are looking for as Male OR Female OR Group OR TV/TS/TG, etc. We are working on changing that "or" to "and", so that you can make more than one selection. Please be patient on this one.

ODDS & ENDS:

1). This site looks weird. There are formatting issues. Are you using internet explorer? Very few things look good on internet explorer. You should download Firefox. It's free. It will also free you from a lot of the malicious spyware and adware that so often infects Internet Explorer. Meanwhile, please send us a brief, specific, to-the-point email. Please be sure to specify what browser you are using and whether or not you are looking at this site on a Mac or a PC.

2). Are you going to sell my email address to penis enlargement companies? No. We hate spam even more than you do. We will not sell or share your email address or any of your personal information with any other company.

3). It's REALLY urgent that I reach someone at sandm.com RIGHT THIS MINUTE. No it isn't.

4). This FAQ didn't answer my question. Send us an email.

SUBMISSIONS:

1). Do you accept photos, stories, and/or art submissions?: Generally speaking, yes. We are especially interested in writing -- fiction, advice, interviews, etc. Photography submissions unfortunately must meet the onerous new 2257 record keeping restrictions. Given the catastrophic nature of things in Washington we have little doubt that the current administration would like nothing more than to make a spectacle of cracking down on immorality just to distract from things like loosing the war, global warming, corruption, graft & greed and whatever other odious business they've gotten themselves into in order to make a buck.

Email samples of your work to webmaster@sandm.com.